Childhood fears:

– My child is afraid of everything, I am confused what to do.
– It bounces at every loud volume. How will this fear go away?
– He doesn't even go to the toilet because it's dark.
– He does not sleep alone. Always one of us sleeps with him or comes to our bed because
afraid.
– I couldn't get into the next room, she's immediately scared and crying.

These examples can be multiplied. So what is fear? Fear is the emotion that arises due to impending danger and makes you want to escape. Although it is a phenomenon that actually protects people,  sometimes it can become life-limiting. Often fear of the unknown. Therefore also
childhood fears change according to the age and developmental period of the child  shows.

– Since everything around is new and unknown in infancy, it is more important than almost anything.  they may be afraid. Sudden noise, bright light can be frightening.
– Between the ages of 3-6 is a period when fears increase. The feeling that harm will come to your body, darkness,  There are fears of strangers, being away from family, and thunder. Added to these by families  Fears such as beggar, thief, bogeyman, doctor fear can be added.
– In primary school period, more concrete things are feared. From animals, he will hurt himself  fears of people and movies begin.
– In adolescence, the most common fear of the future, such as being disliked, humiliated  abstract fears come to the fore.

Fear is a different emotion from phobia and anxiety. Phobia of a particular object or situation  It is a senseless, excessive and constant fear that occurs. For example, encountering a situation for which you have a phobia,  even the possibility of encounter creates fear, even when you know you won't be harmed. Anxiety is bad
It is a feeling of unexplained anxiety, as if something is going to happen. Sometimes just a certain situation  can cause anxiety. For example, talking to strangers.  source of fear  Phobias can occur due to lived experiences. from any animal  a child who is not afraid is harmed during a relationship with that animal, or if a child is in the sea  may develop fear if he has experienced a situation where there is a risk of suffocation. If your experience is too bad
If this has happened, if the reaction of the environment has been too extreme, this fear is reinforced. Lesson from dangerous experiences  It is necessary for the child to learn to protect himself by taking Far away when it touches the fire  like staying away from a strange animal in the street if bitten by it. But
If the fear is reinforced and the reasons are not explained, not being able to get close to the fire or even be able to start a fire.  or life-limiting, such as avoiding all animals, not being able to stay even in the same environment.  can cause consequences.

Some fears in childhood are completely period-specific, developmental  are fears. They disappear or change as the child completes his development and changes the period.

Families beware

Fears can be developmental or situational. However, in many cases families and other  Adults cause these fears to emerge and reinforce. control the child  The words spoken in order to be able to prevent undesirable behaviors cause fears.
It is possible. “I will give you to a beggar”, “if you go there, bogeys will eat”, do not approach the dog, it will bite”,  "If you do something naughty, I'll leave you", "Look, if you don't shut up now, the doctor will give you an injection"...  

The ones that come out of our mouths easily, that we never think of the consequences, that bring instant solutions, but that  It is adult behaviors that cause fear later on. After you do these  Going to a lonely room, crying about going to the doctor, or other fears
It's not fair to expect him to win. Similarly, unconsciously confronting your fears  on the contrary, it can increase fears. Leaving the child who is afraid of the dark in the dark,  It's like forcing a scared child to love a dog.

Answers

It is specific to the developmental period and can be seen in every child and affects the life of the child and family.  Fears that do not prevent are not treated as they will pass with the period. In these cases, families  positive, soothing, fearless and explanatory attitudes are sufficient. from the dark
He went into the dark with the scared child and then told him that there was nothing different in the light.  to show, to read a fairy tale without lying next to him until he falls asleep, to use a small lamp  measures such as burning will suffice. But the most important thing is to give him confidence and that you will be by his side.
is to feel. As in adults, it affects the child's life and performs its functions.  In cases of obstruction, expert opinion should be sought. requiring treatment in childhood  There are some important fears and anxieties. One of them is separation anxiety. In this case immediately
You need to consult a specialist. Sometimes at night, night terrors, nightmares disturb sleep.  causes. In such cases, cooperation between the specialist and the family will solve the problem.  Source: http://www.bengisemerci.com/anne-gel-korkurum/

TAD Preschool Mavişehir Counseling Unit Recommendations;

Although childhood is a beautiful, innocent and enjoyable period,  On the other hand, it is actually a dark period full of fears. children the world  They often dream of events, images and sounds that they do not understand while exploring.
they try to reprocess it in the brain in order to carry it and make sense of it. This gives them lots of nightmares and  It comes back as an experience of fear. Where did the upstairs neighbor's footsteps come from?  While parents can make sense of it, the child who does not know why
he may not want to be separated from his father or that the shadow of the curtain is a phenomenon of light.  He was too scared to cry, thinking that "the beast would come and eat him" because he would not know.  it can start. Sometimes even a star he sees in his dreams wants to harm him.
The egocentric thought that children have in the preschool period (my  Everyone knows what I know, everyone sees what I see, and everything in the world is related to me.  belief) and that abstract thinking has not started (children  Since they could not complete their thinking skills, they began to process the world with concrete thinking.  They may experience their fear intensely because of In this case, they will "fear" them.  It's okay…” or “You've become a big kid, is that even scary?” means  It will increase their anxiety even more and cause them to feel that they are not understood.  “I know you're scared, but look, this shadow is coming from the screen. Come together if you want
let's see." It is necessary to introduce the world to the child without avoiding and letting him avoid.  As in everything else, emotion reflection is a very useful method in fears.  will be. Drawing a picture of what he is afraid of with the child and then tearing that picture together,
that there is something to be afraid of by crumpling it in the trash or making funny additions to the picture.  Removing it, that is, embodying it, is also a very effective method in reducing fear.  is happening.

You realize that apart from the periodical fears of children, it is difficult for them to cope.  In such cases, you can contact our school's guidance unit about what can be done.  You can schedule a meeting.  Another important issue with fears is the power of children's books. Who  A book that is read from time to time helps to alleviate fear through the power of metaphors.  can supply. Various resources are available for this, but have been previously reviewed and useful.  You can review the resources we think are available.

- “One Can't Be Afraid of…” Series – Almidilli Publishing
- Teo's Night Fear Book – Bilgi Publishing Children's Library
- What's there to be afraid of? – Green Dinosaur Publishing House

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